This irrational fear of my father dying started after the night my mother, who had stage four cancer, kissed me goodnight and told me everything was going be alright. Despite her promise, the next morning she never woke up. I don’t remember if my dad explained about death and diseases to me, but I do remember that her sudden death had me convinced that my dad could just stop breathing too. It took until I was in high school and learnt about disease before I stopped checking on my dad.
You are the product of the all of the decisions you have made in your life. Ha! Think about THAT! Sure… stuff happens that you have no control over…. BUT you control how you deal with it… react to it… cope with it. So you are still responsible for where you are at. Which is a GOOD thing when you are winning a Nobel Prize. And a HARD thing to admit when you are not living the life you want.
“You don’t work out enough”, “He’d never date YOU”, “I wish I was as pretty as HER”, “They probably don’t even WANT me to go to the party”…. these are all run of the mill thoughts that dance into my frontal lobe on a daily basis. But you know what? They aren’t fun, feel-good thoughts! How many negative self thoughts do YOU have in a day? Am I…. god forbid.. a NEGATIVE person??? TIME FOR AN EXPERIEMENT! Time to see just how negative I am to myself throughout a course of one day.
Time. Sometimes we use it wisely. Sometimes we waste it. But what is TIME anyway? Philosophers think the passage of time is actually an ILLUSION… that only the *present* is real. Physicists see time as a mathematical dimension. And the rest of us? We see it as something that keeps on marching… no matter what you do with it. Can’t stop it. Can’t slow it. And can’t make MORE of it!! The result? We can chase it, stop it and lose it, but NEVER have enough of it. WE NEED MORE TIME!!! Things pile up, life become chaotic… what’s the solution??
It is always hard to watch a friend self-destruct. From smoking to drugs, dating jerks to loving and marrying the completely wrong guy…. to even WORSE….inflicting physical pain on themselves. It’s hard to watch, and harder still to watch and do NOTHING. Don’t you just wish you could smack them on the forehead and just snap them out of it?
It seems like such a dirty word, and just saying it makes you want to take a shower and wash it away from your oh so clean successful self! The word itself is loaded with a feeling of tense rejection and negativity and a sense of dread. But really, have you ever stopped to think that maybe, just maybe failure is the key to success?
n times of moral chaos, politics and money can easily sway people. However, no amount of power or money will be able to move a person with a strong backbone of principles.
Accepting responsibility for your life
It is easy to lay blame on everyone else for everything bad that happens in life. I spent many years saying things like, why does life always treat me this way? Why do I always get screwed over? Why me??
We’ve been raised in a society that condemns self-love. It judges us and labels us as narcissistic when we decide to take care of ourselves first. This is probably something you’ve experienced anytime you’ve stated you don’t want children. How DARE you want to take care of yourself instead of some human being that doesn’t yet (nor will ever) exist; so selfish right!