I recently stumbled across this article “Midlife Ramblings: What I Don’t Get About My Childless/Childfree Young Friends.” I was frustrated by the patronizing way in which it was written so I felt compelled to write a response. The article is written in a typical ‘holier than thou’ way. It’s literally all the nonsense that childless […]
As a childfree woman I am often regarded as an abnormality of sorts. Though the trend of smaller families, or no children at all, is growing- women who don’t aspire to motherhood are still often looked down on. I’ve analyzed the reasons for this and I think most people just assume I (and other women […]
Trust me when I say most of us childfree women have thought long and hard about our decision not to reproduce. We’ve looked at the pros and the cons and have decided, that for whatever reason, it wouldn’t be fair to ourselves or our potential children to become a mother. We are making one of the biggest, most researched decision of our life. So please stop with your subtle nudges. They really, really hurt.
“But who will take care of you when you’re old?” Anyone who announces their intention not to have children has inevitably been asked this question. Here is my response: **** Who will take care of me when I’m old you ask? Well, if I’m so incapacitated that I can’t do it myself then it will […]
It got me thinking and my initial reasons to never have my own children was due to the over population of the planet. At the time, I thought I would adopt. When, I went through conversion for Judaism, I felt even more pressure to adopt. Until I read a post geared towards childfree Jews saying we can contribute to the next generation by helping out others with their children.
I’m glad to live in a time where women can choose to be childfree. I have always known instinctively that this is right for an INTJ (personality type) woman like myself. My life is focused on my interests and the people I’ve chosen to care about and love. I feel young and liberated and excited about my life at 34 and very optimistic about the future.
As a women this is MY decision, I can make MY own decisions. Be respectful. I should not need to defend myself.
A 41 year-old childfree woman from Capetown, South Africa gives a peek into her life and shares some insightful thoughts about regret.
We love sharing material that our reader’s have written about their childfree life. If you have something you would like us to feature please email: firstname.lastname@example.org. The views expressed in our reader submissions do not necessarily reflect the views of Childfree is Not a Dirty Word. Submitted by: Shishir, India. Originally published in Shishir’s blog, […]
A childfree man from India shares how he decided not to have children before he got married.