I’m glad to live in a time where women can choose to be childfree.I feel young and liberated and excited about my life at 34 and very optimistic about the future.
1. Name, age, location: Kate Giovino, 34, Austin, Texas
2. When and why did you decide that you weren’t going to have children? I remember being as young as 6 or 7 and telling my mom that I “never want to be a mommy.” It is as true today as then!
3. Have you ever received any backlash due to this decision, if so, what? Honestly, not much. I’ve very assertive and confident in general, so I think people could see I’m not a pushover. I have received a few, “You’ll change your mind” type of responses over the years, but they weren’t willing to bet money on it! 😀
4. What do you do now that you think you wouldn’t be able to do (or do as well) if you had children? My boyfriend and I are very into powerlifting and quite serious about our training. We like not having to have our schedules interrupted for kids. We also both really enjoy sleeping in on the weekends, seeing movies at Alamo Drafthouse in Austin, and going out for Thai and sushi. We don’t have to arrange for sitters or compromise. We also want to travel to Europe some day and do roadtrips in the U.S., which would be nightmares with kids.
5. What’s your favourite part about being childfree? Having my time be my own. Not having to spend money on kids and be in debt. Not having to deal with reliving childhood again. Not having to deal with gross kid behavior. I feel liberated and free to focus on what is important to me.
6. If money and time were no concern, what would be the one dream you would fulfill? I’m very content with a simple life. I consider myself a minimalist. I would say that if money were no option, I would give up my job in law (which I love) and just weight train, lie in the sun, eat sushi, and travel.
7. Do you have any favourite books, blog posts, websites or articles about being childfree? I enjoy reading r/childfree on Reddit. I also Google search for “childfree” every few weeks to read any recent articles on the topic. I enjoy a few of the childfree Facebook pages.
8. Are there any people or animals in your life that you help take care of? I don’t have pets right now, but my boyfriend and I want to get some cats in the future (we love cats). I don’t have to take care of any creature, person or pet, and that is freeing to me. I like not having those kinds of obligations.
9. Do you have any last thoughts that you’d like to share with readers? I’m glad to live in a time where women can choose to be childfree. I have always known instinctively that this is right for an INTJ (personality type) woman like myself. My life is focused on my interests and the people I’ve chosen to care about and love. I feel young and liberated and excited about my life at 34 and very optimistic about the future.
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Some photos from Kate’s life:
Keeping in shape and enjoying the sun