People think I’m being lazy but I’m really not. I can never complete my daily to-do list.
1. Name, age, location: I go by Susie. I’m 29 years old and live in Las Vegas, NV.
2. When did you decide you didn’t want children? It must have been when my son-in-law mentioned he did not want kids because of how terrible the world is and he doesn’t want to bring a child into it. It got me thinking and my initial reasons to never have my own children was due to the over population of the planet. At the time, I thought I would adopt. When, I went through conversion for Judaism, I felt even more pressure to adopt. Until I read a post geared towards childfree Jews saying we can contribute to the next generation by helping out others with their children. I’ve always enjoyed this. At one point, I even wanted to become a teacher and was studying early childhood education, but gave that up after realizing how little control a teacher has. That’s when I persued fashion design and my love for vintage and historical fashions. So, in the end, I guess it came about mainly from that article aimed at child-free Jews.
3. Have you ever received any backlash due to this decision, if so, what? Just a little. For the most part, people seem supportive open-minded, or they just remain silent about.
The worse has come when I decided to further extend my interest in vintage fashions into my life. I wanted to start bringing what I loved most about the 1940s to early 1960s into my modern life….traditional feminine roles, how I view my husband, how I dress and care for myself. I eventually would like to decorate our future home in the style if these years too. But, because these times are often seen with raising children, I get a lot of confusion from others about my decision to live as a mid-20th century housewife and not have children. People think I’m being lazy but I’m not. I’ll tell you something, I can never complete my daily to-do list. I maybe could if I took out my me-time. But, I don’t want to go insane either.
4. What do you do now that you think you wouldn’t be able to do if you had children? Live my life as much as possible like a mid-20th century housewife. I would give it up to raise a child if I had to. I would feel awful pushing such a lifestyle onto a child who would absolutely be made fun of for it. I will admit, I would prefer to homeschool due to how unsecure public school can be and how pricey a safer private school would be. But, I’d also want my child interacting with other children and have friends through sports, art classes, dance, acting class, choir…..whatever. Let’s face it, children are mean.
5. What’s your favourite part about being childfree? That I can live my life how I please.
6. If money and time were no concern, what would be the one dream you would fulfill? Traveling all over the world….I want to go to London, Versailles, and Japan the most!
7. Anything else you want to add? I’m a member of a very thriving vintage lifestyle community here and part of a new vintage centered charity group called Femmes and Fellas (https://www.facebook.com/femmesandfellas). The childfree lifestyle seems to be a choice amongst many vintage enthusiasts. While, having children seems like it would go perfectly with a vintage inspired lifestyle, these girls are bringing a love for the past into their modern lives and this does not include every aspect of the past. We believe the good went out with the bad!
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