Laura’s childfree life in Canada’s capital

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1. Name, age, location
Laura, 35, Ottawa, Ontario

2. When and why did you decide that you weren’t going to have children?
I’ve never really wanted kids. As a child I never played with dolls and disliked playing house. As I got older, I realized that having children was not a requirement for being an actual adult and I began to picture my life as a single woman microwaving burritos and sharing them with her dog. I met my husband at 19 and he wasn’t really interested in having children either. Now that we’re in our prime childbearing years and all of our friends seem to be procreating, we really have no desire to change our lifestyle and no burning need to join in on the babymaking trend.

3. Have you ever received any backlash due to this decision, if so, what?
Our families have taken a bit of time to get used to the idea but overall they’ve been pretty good about honoring our choice. I’ve also been fairly lucky with my doctors in terms of being able to access the birth control methods of my choice, despite the fact that IUDs have historically been reserved only for women who’ve already had a family.

4. What do you do now that you think you wouldn’t be able to do (or do as well) if you had children?
As introverts, both my husband and I value and need quiet time to ourselves on a regular basis to recharge. We also enjoy taking weekend trips, focusing on hobbies and spending some weekday evenings out socializing with friends. If we had children, those activities would fall to the wayside. We’d both find this stressful and our relationship would certainly suffer.

5. What’s your favourite part about being childfree?
Being able to spend two hours on a Saturday soaking in a bubble bath reading a book without guilt or interruptions.

6. If money and time were no concern, what would be the one dream you would fulfill?
We’d both love to buy an RV and spend a year or two driving across the US and Canada, seeing the sights and eating regional foods.

7. Do you have any favourite books, blog posts, websites or articles about being childfree?
I love checking out /r/childfree on Reddit. It’s nice to know there’s a community of like-minded individuals out there.

8. Are there any people or animals in your life that you help take care of?
We have a dog Didi who is our furbaby.

9. Do you have any last thoughts that you’d like to share with readers?
Society as a whole seems to be moving towards a greater acceptance of different types of lifestyles. I hope this trend continues to include those who choose to be childfree, not only so that people don’t look at me strangely when I say I don’t plan on having children, but so that others don’t feel as much societal pressure to join in on reproduction. All children should be wanted children.